How’s your sex life?

No, really. How is it?

Are you getting what you desire?

Do you have fun while you’re in bed with your partner?

When it’s over, do you both have big smiles on your faces?

Or does sex just not seem worth the effort?

When you do have sex, are you waiting for it to be over?

Do you wish you could tell your partner what you really want?

If sex isn’t what you want it to be, you’re not alone. When you’re ready to change things, you’ve come to the right place. I’m here to help you make sex easy.

It’s not a surprise that sex can be tricky. Confusing messages about what sex is supposed to be, bumpy relationships, medical or physical health issues, or simply being too busy- most people face these, and then they get stuck. Fortunately, getting unstuck isn’t as hard as it seems. I’m a relationship and sex coach and I can tell you that it’s within your reach.

charlie-smallFor more than thirty years, I’ve been helping people find new ways to enhance their relationships, explore their desires, and make sex easy. After working with thousands of individuals and couples, I know what it takes to create a vibrant, passionate sex life. I’ll give you compassionate, expert advice to make sure you get the sex life and relationships you want and deserve. You’ll be able to figure out what you want, how to get it, and what you need to make that happen. Whatever your sexual history and no matter what you want to explore, you can be sure to get the best information and support, without judgment or shame.

When you’re ready to get what you really want, I’ll help you make that happen. I offer sex coaching over Zoom, so no matter where you are, we can work together. If you’re in Seattle (or just visiting), I’m also happy to meet in person. The initial consultation is free, so get in touch and let’s see how I can help you make sex easy.

My Accountability Process

In 2018, I initiated an accountability process to address harms I caused to one of my previous partners and to my personal and professional communities. From 2014-2016, I harmed and emotionally abused one of my partners. I used social media in the autumn of 2016 to defend my actions which harmed my communities. I took […]

When Safety Becomes Controlling

Note: I wrote this post in April 2019 to explore how my thinking on this topic has changed since writing this one in December 2015. In the tech world, they often say that it’s important to find a balance between security and usability. If you make your online passwords difficult to crack, they’re also difficult […]