What Does Celibacy Mean, Anyway?

So here’s a great question someone sent me: I have a question… or opinion from you please and thanks. If a person doesn’t indulge in sexual intercourse with a partner are they abstinent or celibate? And are they either if they penetrate themselves with a toy? Lastly, if they only use a bullet without penetration

How to Last Longer in Bed

Here’s a question that someone sent me: I’m sure you’ve covered this at some point already but I was curious if you had any suggestions for lasting longer? I’ve tried numbing lubes, trying to distract myself with thinking about something else (which doesn’t work well and takes away from the experience 🙁 ) and I’ve

Enduring Unpleasant Touch

Do you want to know the most powerful thing you can to do transform your sex life? Stop enduring touch that doesn’t feel good. In my somatic coaching practice, I help people create better sex lives, so I hear all about the experiences and worries that hold them back. A lot of folks tell me

When Anal Sex Doesn’t Work

Here’s a question that showed up in my in-box today: Sometimes, when my boyfriend and I have anal sex, it’s really fun. But other times, it just doesn’t work. That doesn’t happen when we have regular intercourse. What are we doing wrong? It’s sort of hard to give you a specific answer since there are

What Does “Sexual Success” Mean?

Have you ever stopped and asked yourself what a successful sexual experience is? It’s an important question because how you answer it says a lot about your attitudes and beliefs about sex. And that has a big impact on the kinds of experiences you’re creating and the sexual relationships you build. One of the more