There's been a lot of writing about men, gender training, and relationship dynamics. I've even done some of it myself. But there's a piece at the core of it all that I think often gets missed. I certainly didn't understand it until just a few years ago. There's a developmental trauma at the heart of…
There's something I've noticed about dogs and cats. Some animals don't really care if you're not paying close attention to what you're doing while you pet them. I've known many cats and dogs that enjoy it if I make the scritchy motion with my hand while they move around to get it where they want.…
I've been seeing a meme floating around that says "the things that helped you survive get in your way when it's time to thrive." There's a lot of truth to that, and not just in terms of emotions.
When it's a physical injury
Here's one way it might look when it's a physical injury. I…
There's a phrase that a lot of people use when talking about their feelings. They'll start their sentences with "I am..." As in:
I'm angry.
I'm sad.
I'm scared.
From a grammar angle, these ways of expressing emotions aren't any different than saying "I'm hungry" or "I'm ready to leave the party." But…
As a sex & relationship coach, I get to see people while they're in the middle of some difficult situations. I've mediated couples during arguments. I've worked with people when they're stuck in their triggers. I've talked with folks who were in the middle of their emotional reactions. And over and over, I've witnessed how…